How should you begin?1
- Help your child to know that his/her body belongs to him. If they feel uncomfortable when someone touches or kisses, they should ask the person to stop.
- He/she should also tell a trusted adult if this happens.
- Teach your child to identify his private body parts.
- Tell them private body parts are areas on your body that are covered by your underwear.
- You should not allow people to touch them. A check by the doctor or a loving hug from mummy or daddy is welcome.
- For girls, teach about breasts, groin, and vulva and for boys, penis, groin, and testicles.
- It is important to teach children the correct terms for their private body parts that helps them develop respect for their bodies.
- Children are also in a better position to be able to report sexual abuse incidents.
Teaching difference between good touch and bad touch1,2
A good touch makes you feel good.
E.g., pat by teacher for sharing toys, a hug from mommy, a good night kiss by daddy.
On the other hand, touches that make you feel uncomfortable are bad touches.
It is a bad touch
- If it hurts you
- If someone touches you where you do not wish to be touched
- If a person touches you in a way you don’t want to be touched
- If it makes you scared and nervous
- If a person forces you to touch him/ her
- If a person asks you not to share it with anyone
- If a person threatens you to hurt it with someone
Teaching safe codes
- Don’t be alone with anyone who touches you inappropriately or touches you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable.
- If someone touches you inappropriately, tell it to someone you trust about what happened.
- Don’t get scared or keep it a secret if anyone threatens you and tell it to someone whom you trust.
- If someone tries to take you away or tries to touch you inappropriately, scream, run and get away.
- Kiszlive: I can protect myself[Internet]. Available at: https://www.icmec.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/KidzLive-Booklet_2017.pdf. Accessed on Feb 24, 2020.
- Good and bad touch: A safety guide for children up to 18 years[Internet]. Available at: http://www.childprotection.gov.lk/leaflets/Print%202017/GOOD%20TOUCH%20L.... Accessed on Feb 24, 2020.